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Kamila’s tale: Taunted at home, tortured by husband

Kamila’s tale: Taunted at home, tortured by husband

Feb 12, 2018 - 12:11

KABULinfo-icon (Pajhwok): A 29-year-old woman ended up in the shelter house of capital Kabul just nine months after her marriage to escape abuse and torture at husband’s and paternal homes.

Kamila (not real name) was interviewed by Pajhwok Afghan News about her bitter story in one of Kabul’s shelter houses.

“I married to a 45 years old man whose first wife had died and he has a 12 years old son and a daughter. I was married to this man by my family without my consent eight months ago,” she said.

With tears rolling on her cheeks, Kamila said: “The bad behavior and taunts of my sister-in-law at our home compelled me to accept marriage to this old man without thinking about my future.”

“My sister-in-law would taunt me telling I had turned old and no one would marry me and I would always eat from my brother’s food,” she said.

A few weeks after her marriage, her husband started treating her badly. “He destroyed my happiness. His son and daughter also started treating me badly, they would provoke my husband to beat me,” Kamila said.

“I faced many problems I had never experienced before. No one supported me and I could not complain to anyone. My half children used different excuses to provoke my husband and he would hit me with punches, stick, kicks and pipe,” she added.

Kamila could not continue talking as she fell in deep thoughts and looked fearful and then burst out crying. She cleaned her tears with her shawl and was silent for a few moments.

Later she resumed her story and said: “It became a routine, he would daily torture me. Life was like a heavy burden.”

But again she started crying loudly and this reporter preferred to stop the interview, but her inner pains forced her to share her unsaid story with Pajhwok.

“I was in a situation where I could not live with my husband or with my brother. After my marriage, all my family cut off relations with me,” she said while crying loudly.

There were clear signs of burns and stab wounds on Kamila’s body. “My husband was a pickpocketer. One day he disputed with a man from whom he had stolen a mobile phone and he stabbed that man to death and then escaped.”

“After this incident, my husband arrived home and forced me to go with him to Pakistaninfo-icon to escape the law for sometime,” she said, adding that traveling to Pakistan opened a new page of pains in her life.

“Besides beating me, my husband would tell me that I must work in people’s houses and earn money,” she said.

“I started washing clothes in houses of people and return home at the end of the day, my husband would take all the money,” Kamila said.

With the passage of time, she began losing her ability to work as she continued to tolerate the situation.

While scratching her dried injures with her nails, she said: “I felt that I cannot tolerate this situation anymore, I decided to go back to Kabul and to my brother’s home.”

She could hardly talk and paused for some moments. After half an hour of silence, Kamila again started talking.

“When I secretly came to Kabul, I went to my brother’s home, but my brother did not allow me to live with him, then I went to my only sister’s house and spent a few days there in peace,” she said.

“It was a few more days later when my husband arrived from Pakistan. He talked softly with me and promised a peaceful life together, then I agreed to go with him,” she added.

However, Kamila said her husband did not remain loyal to his promises and rented an old and a hidden house for living.

“A few days later, my husband asked me to give him money because he planned to go to Pakistan for work, but I had no money and my husband thrashed me very hard, he threw boiling water on me and injured me with a knife,” she said.

“Our neighbors got informed about my situation and they shifted me to hospital where the shelter house heard about me and brought me here,” she said.

While shaking and hardly controlling herself, Kamila said her husband was in prison and his son and daughter had fled somewhere else.

Kamila asked the government to help her take divorce from her husband in order to escape a return to her oppressed life.




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